Friday, September 30, 2011

What Is He Thinking?? Rebecca St. James Book Review & Giveaway

What Is He Thinking--What Guys Want Us to Know 
    About Dating, Love, and Marriage

by Rebecca St. James
Hachette Book Group
237 Park Avenue
New York, NY  10017
Copyright 2011

ISBN 978-0-446-57267-5
$14.99 US / $16.50 Canada

I recently received a copy of What Is He Thinking by Rebecca St. James to read and provide a review.  Let me tell you about this book that will be pulled out a lot in the next few years.

In this book Rebecca interviews a range of men from high-profile to guy-next-door.  The interviews focus on single guys ages 20-35, and a few older mentors such as her dad, life coach and pastor.  The men interviewed answer questions such as:

  • What is the most attractive quality to you in a woman?
  • Is modesty truly attractive?
  • Is neediness a turn-off?
  • What do you find beautiful?
  • How can we be dependent on God for our identity, not on you?
  • How can we help you with boundaries physically?

Rebecca talks about her own dating life, single life, struggles with loneliness, and treating men as brothers in Christ while trusting God with your dating life.

Within this book Rebecca touches on

  1. First Impressions:  What Are Guys Really Looking For?
  2. Understanding Guys:  What Are They Thinking...About Us?
  3. Understanding Us:  Flirting, Body Image, and Major Turnoffs
  4. Spiritually Connecting:  God and Guys
  5. Physically Connecting:  Modesty, Sexuality, and Boundaries
  6. Getting Serious:  What Are They Thinking...About Marriage?
  7. Married Mentors:  What Did They Learn?
  8. An Open Floor:  What Do Guys Want to Say to Us?

There is also an Appendix containing her survey question for you to interview some of your guy friends.

Each chapter ends with "A Few Takeaways for You and Me" such as:

  • With quality guys, looks are only one component of attraction.
  • Don't talk too much.  Leave some mystery!
  • Regard dating as something that is precious; don't overdate.  God calls us to guard our hearts.
  • Don't settle for a man who will not value and cherish you.
  • Have a life apart from the relationship.
  • Good relationships take WORK!
  • Put your trust in God, not in the guy you're dating.
  • Set standards and ideal ahead of time.
  • Guard your heart.
Rebecca also provides some other ideas such as:
  • Top Ten Turnoffs For Guys 
  • Your Identity (a list of qualities about your identity and related Bible verses
  • Top Ten Things Guys Do To Keep Their Minds Off Sex
  • Three Ways to Guard Your Thought Life
What I Thought:  I really enjoyed this book.  It touches on a lot of things that often never get said or thought about in a relationship.  Rebecca offers a reality check for girls/young women who are just starting to date, already in a relationship, or just trying figure out guys and the whole dating scene.  The responses to her survey questions are honest and thought-provoking.  While sharing the responses to her questions, Rebecca shares a wholesome and modest twist on the topics and includes plenty of scripture references.  This would be a great book for any teen/young adult girl to read and discuss.  We'll be talking about the ideas in this book  while dealing with our growing up soooo fast daughter.  I really appreciate that Rebecca tackles the somewhat difficult things to talk about in a way that is easy for teens to read.

Go here to find Rebecca on Twitter  or watch her on YouTube here
You can read about Rebecca on her official Website or Facebook page 
Read more about the book at this Facebook page

For a preview of the first 10% of the book go here

Did this book sound interesting?  Why not enter the Giveaway?

I get to give one lucky person a copy of this great book.  I will be drawing a winner Friday, October 14th at noon.  Here's what you have to do to have a chance to win:

1.  Leave a comment here that you're interested in the book.
2.  For another entry tell me your favorite Rebecca St. James book or song.
3.  For another entry follow me on Google Friend Connect or Networked Blogs and leave a comment here that you are following.

Blessings and good luck to all who enter!

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products or services mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."


Sarah said...

I'm very interested - I have two daughters who will be able to get a lot from it.

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Sarah said...

I really enjoyed Sister Freaks

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Sarah said...

I follow on NB

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Becky said...

Would love to win. I have two pre-teens and am gathering resources for them.

Becky K said...

My favorite song is Amazing Love.

Becky K said...

Following you on GFC (can't believe I wasn't already doing that!).

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